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The greatest success, is successful self acceptance, said once Ben Sweet. We can only be happy when we respect ourselves first.
Yet it’s so tough to say you’re fat, for example, isn’t it? I used to be, too. But one day I decided to face that hard reality and actually do something about it. Now, I’m fit and exercise daily. What I learned from this change was one of the greatest life lessons:
By admitting you have a negative side, you start taking action to change that. That’s the first step. Then, you suddenly stop worrying or complaining about it and start realizing that it’s all in your hands. Life is what you make it. And often, to make it, you have to change it. Because it was made in a way, sometimes not satisfactory enough, when we were born.
If you’ve grown up in a line of bad fathers, the only way to change that is to become a great father. That’s what my father did, and I’m deeply thankful for it.
Accepting yourself is quite easy, yet so few of us do it. There’s only two steps to it!
- Face reality. “I’m a boring person.”
- Change reality. “I’ll try to smile more, I’ll learn some new jokes and watch some videos on humor on YouTube.”
Are you ready to finally accept yourself? Are you willing to take action to finally change your negative sides?
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‘Easier said than done’. For example, if I have an appointment I (most of the time) am on time. Most people usually have an excuse for being late (traffic jam, a last-minute thing popping up …)…and upon arrival they start apologising. If I am running late, I try to call and apologise in advance.
1. Face reality – trying to be punctual results in wasting one’s own time …
2. Change reality – every time I tell myself ‘don’t rush next time’ and next time I am again on time.
Nice post. ‘Life is what you make it. And often, to make it, you have to change it.’ – I fully agree.
@ Rayna
As I said, facing reality is just the first step. Changing it is the tricky part.
Here’s what I recommend: be late for a meeting once, but on purpose. If the other person’s already there, apologize. If not, it will mean less time spent in waiting for them to arrive.
The problem is that you’re telling yourself. Try making yourself be late and see how you feel. If you like it better, the next time you won’t be in such a hurry. If not, you’ll feel great when you’re on time
Dimitar, thanks. Wil try it. Sounds reasonable and easy. Have a great day!
With the post below, I tried to invite you to the Bloggers’ Big Read, but as the Pingback didn’t work for some reason, here it is:
http://tzvetkova.wordpress.com/2009/03/29/bloggers-big-read/
Thanks for the invitation, Rayna!
I’ll share my top 10 favorite books as soon as I find some time to write the new article.
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