Entries from August 2009 ↓

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It contains 18 easy-to-apply tips that will help you make friends, influence people and be perceived as a wonderful person that people want to be with.

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It’s sad, but true. Most of the time life doesn’t have a guarantee. Our actions and decisions directly imapct the way we live and think. But even if that can be dangerous, does it mean that you shouldn’t take any risks?

Well, if there’s no guarantee, create your own. Be sure that whatever you’re doing will positively impact your life in near or distant future. Judge risks carefully and thoughtfully so as to avoid problems.

When Ben Franklin would make a choice, he would sit down in front of a blank sheet of paper, chart it up into two sides – left and right, and write down both the positive and the negative sides, thoughts and possible outcomes. Thus, if the positive side prevailed, he would take action. That’s an amazing way to decide with your mind, not your emotions.

So what if life offers no guarantee? Make sure you create your own with logic and rational thinking. You won’t be disappointed.

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I strongly believe that a true leader should make an impact on every single person he starts a conversation with. It’s the best way to stand out from the crowd and to be remembered. So here’s my personal guide to being the person in any room or place.

Remember people’s names

A person’s name is the sweetest word to them in any language. Try to remember names, they’re often quite simple and short. It shows that you’ve taken interest in your conversation mate and you’ve made an effort to remember him or her.

This can be quite tough. However, I tend to associate a name with a visual. It could be a face, the person’s phone or something they often do. This easy technique really helps when names do matter.

It’s all about them

Isn’t it interesting how you can be a perceived great conversationalist without having said anything of value? Well, just learn to listen properly.

Often people start conversations with great enthousiasm because they’ve found a listener. In exchange, most of them will listen back. But the better conversationalist and true leader will understand what others care for. They’ll look into others’ passions and encourage them to speake about what they love.

Communicate your ideas clearly

Respect the time of your listener or reader. Also have in mind the fact that their attention is quite limited. They’ll not be willing to listen to you unless you communicate your ideas as soon and as clearly as possible.

Use short, easy-to-understand words. Don’t use slang or terminology. Look at the person’s eyes and feel when they don’t really understand what you’re trying to say. If needed, repeat it.

Master your body language

Let me explain it as simple as I can: don’t cross your legs or hands. Stand up straight when talking and look people at the eyes. Do relatively slow, relaxed movements with purpose. Avoid nervous signs such as shaking legs or scratching yourself. Don’t touch or cover your face while talking. And always look as fresh as possible. Nobody likes a tired listener showing no interest.

Thanks for taking the time to read my thoughts! The list seems complete to me, but if you have any more tips on how to make an impact, please share them in the comments. I wish you a successful and pleasant day.

Sometimes you can learn a lot about yourself from other people’s opinion. You simply have to learn to listen carefully to others and trully understand what they’re trying to say.

But here’s the tricky part: take in consideration the opinion of those you you respect. A simple tip or even a bit of friendly criticism can give you an isight into the way you look in front of others. Truth is that we often don’t take our actions and way of behavior into consideration. This can even harm our social abilities and make us look strange from the third person’s view.

So my tip here is to simply pay attention to advice and criticism when it comes to you and always judge carefully if change is really worth it. Even a stranger can reveal something about yourself that you hadn’t noticed before – no matter if positive or negative.

When somebody’s giving you advice, imagine as if you’re having a free consultation with a psychologist or a behavior specialist. From time to time, the advice given can help you significantly improve your vision and way of communication. For me personally, those people who have the guts to tell you: “Hey, you’re a neat guy, but this thing particualrly annoys me…“, are people worhthy of respect.