Entries from September 2009 ↓

“Sure that we can talk, as long as we don’t say too much.” That’s one of my favorite mafia movie quotes worth mentioning. Often people have the bad habit to share too much. More than enough details or more than enough personal opinions and feelings can make more harm than good.

A piece of Dale Carnegie’s best advice of all time is to praise publicly and criticize silently. Nobody likes to be condemned or criticized in front of others, nor to be commented behind his own back.

So if you’re willing to maintain positive relationships, pay detailed attention to what you say. Talk freely without saying too much.

Where some people see the law of attraction and positive thinking in general as something that doesn’t work, I see them as an opportunity. A chance to have a motivated and focused mind on what you want, forgetting about what you don’t.

Even if positive thoughts can’t create the reality you want, they can help you have a balanced mind that strives towards success.

My manifest of positive thinking

Thinking positively is good for you. It lets you understand what you want and often makes you come up with a way to get it. It’s not magical, but it does wonders.

But it’s not only about words. It’s about how you feel. Sometimes nice words trigger negative emotions. I too agree that the phrase “I have the perfect job” sounds silly and naive. So paraphrase! Say “I’m in the process of finding the perfect job.” You’re honest with yourself and you simply state your current ambitions and desires. I doubt that there is anything wrong about that, isn’t there?

Two remarkably useful questions

Here’s a tip: the next time you’re thinking of something that you don’t want, ask yourself “What do I want?” or “How can I change my current situation?“.

Ask that voice in your head, make plans, make anything needed to take your ambitions seriously. Believe in yourself and get motivated. That’s what positive thinking really is.

One of the happiest places on earth is Iceland. It may be cold and dark out there, but Icelanders are quite comtempt with life simply because their culture doesn’t stigmatize failure. That’s what writer and traveller Eric Weiner has concluded in his latest book and I fully agree with his thesis.

Here’s my question: how can we know what success and happiness are unless we fail from time to time? And should we really think of mistakes as something lethal? I don’t think so.

Cultivate a mindset that accepts failure as something human. Istead of being frustrated by it, simply learn from it. It gives you priceless know-how that no book, blog or motivation speaker is going to teach you.